tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1444629948441697441.post3976872037747553729..comments2021-03-15T06:30:39.067-07:00Comments on Bringing Lena Home: While we wait....Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06689094222004070542noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1444629948441697441.post-72926828082439292972013-10-11T14:37:28.074-07:002013-10-11T14:37:28.074-07:00Having adopted five older children I've seen b...Having adopted five older children I've seen both ends of a spectrum, I think.... I have a couple of sons who - yes; did experience loss - but loss on a par with the loss many of their classmates have felt.... Every year one or two children lose a parent to death. Any number of children in our university town have lost their countries of origin. Both of these boys had love and nurture for their first three years, and though they lost their parents to death, they are well-balanced kids. Very pragmatic. Happy to be Americans, and looking askance at my "romanticizing" both life in their homeland (they're glad when I make Russian food, but where horrified when I suggested moving there so their dad and I could teach at an international school). These boys love their heritage but are all about the hope. At the other end of the spectrum are the two children whose mother was immoral, neglectful, and whose alcohol consumption left them prey to abusers. Our beloved son killed himself last year; his sister struggles greatly with deep, deep shame. In the middle is Maxim, who experienced loss, (after loss after loss - both in Russia and here). He was born, though, with the most optimistic, resilient spirit! It is nearly impossible to believe that he would not have been seriously damaged by all the hurt that's been heaped on him - but he always sees the best. He can look back on the worst things in his life, and tell me he's "glad" they happened, because he learned this or that lesson. <br /><br />There is almost no way to prepare adequately! You have no idea whatsoever what your dear girl will have experienced, or how it will have impacted her. But, connection and love is what it is all about. Anniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12623179886908222942noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1444629948441697441.post-21051316023494029932013-10-09T12:58:23.768-07:002013-10-09T12:58:23.768-07:00Anytime you are on a blog or article about being p...Anytime you are on a blog or article about being prepared for Lena to be home, just use that little arrow thing to message or email it to me. I will pass it along to others in my household.Mitzihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16380191797763941817noreply@blogger.com